A Simple Way to Begin to Improve Self Esteem

You may repeat the same negative patterns over and over in your life and never realize that you end up in these same situations because you don't feel that you are worthy of something better. For example, several of my clients continued to have relationship partners who did not treat them the way they ought to be treated. These women were controlled and disrespected.

When you can't ever figure out how to feel better about yourself, it might seem like it is too late or impossible to change - but that is far from the truth. Self esteem programs are never too late to start.

Low self esteem feeds on negative thinking about yourself which often leads to negative thinking about others just to make yourself feel better than them with the false belief that that  will make you feel better about yourself - the proverbial vicious cycle. The negative thinking feeds off of your lack of self worth and continues to throw more negatives at you, until you make the decision to let go of the negative and find the positive.

Here is one simple self-esteem exercise.

1. Start watching your thoughts. Simply observe them.
2. When you notice that you have a negative thought about yourself, observe it and replace it with the truth about yourself. For example, you may think, "There I go again! I never get it right!" Now you noticed that you had that thought.
3. Try not to then follow that with a judgment about your negative thought.
4. Now replace it by saying to yourself: "Sometimes I don't get it right and sometimes I do."

Now you try it. Think of one of the things you often say to yourself or wait until the next time you notice. Stop and tell yourself the truth - not the judgment.